1. You get mad, sad, upset, etc. -- I do not mind if you get mad during birth and I will not be offended if you yell at me. I most certainly will not think any less or differently of you. Birth can be one of the most tiresome and difficult journeys you experience. And transition can be especially challenging. You might feel like giving up, giving in to that medication, or even going home. During this phase you may experience an increased bloody show, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, burping, hiccups, shaking, hot/cold feelings, fatigue and sensitivity to touch. You might also feel an increased pressure on the perineum and/or rectum. And you may feel all of this at the same time! Most people would be cranky too! So don’t worry about your choice of words or hurting my feelings – I can take it! Bonus Tip: Did you know that about 1/3 of Mom's report not experiencing transition, 1/3 report a mild transition, and 1/3 report a tough transition?
3. Your choice of clothing (or lack of) -- Whether you decide to wear a custom made labor gown (see link below), old sweats, only a sports bra, or nothing at all is your choice. I will provide you with the level of support you need no matter how much or how little you are wearing. I'll cover you should you get cold or help you lose the clothes when they become uncomfortable. And I will not judge your stretch marks, round belly, or sweaty skin. Birth is beautiful no matter what you do or don't wear.
4. Your educated decisions -- Everyone is different, every family has their own background and each birth is unique. This birth is yours and yours alone. I encourage all of my clients to make their own educated decisions before labor day. Having a birth plan in place and knowing the reasons behind your choices is one of the main tools in an empowered birth. As long as you know the benefits and risks of the decisions YOU choose - I will do all I can to make sure your wishes are met. I will not push my beliefs on you because this is your birth - not mine. Please consider taking a comprehensive childbirth class that will help you gain the knowledge needed to make these informed decisions.